Now that all of this is over for us it should be rather easy to just be contemplative about the whole matter. But oh, how hard it was to believe that when the seven month old baby in arms was supposed to turn into a monster during the dreaded time of the terrible twos…well, it was just plain hard to conceive this in our minds. Some of us older folks still remember reading Ann Landers’ advice column on a daily basis, and in one of her columns she had asked her readers to write in and let her know what their response would be to her question. The question was this: “If you had to do the parenting job all over again, would you do it?” There was an overwhelming majority of her readers that said quite frankly, “NO!” Hard to believe isn’t it? Of course, there were also those who said that they would do it over again, but with some major changes included. This column was read in 1977 when this writer had such a wonderful backlog of experience with children (baby was seven months old) and how this writer thought it was so terrible that these people would actually write in and say that they would never do the parenting job again if they had to do it over. Writer remembers the smell of baby powder in her nose and the sweet scents of a newly bathed baby nestling up against Mommy’s neck.
Oh, yes, as the title in this article also states….”the terrible teens….” as well. Yes, they were terrible. But perhaps it was because my two year old didn’t really have those so-called ‘terrible twos’ season….though later on, the wish was prevalent that those terrible twos had been as terrible as everyone said that they would be, but somehow they were not. Perhaps this is why her teen years were so terrible. She was making up for the easy time we had during her second year.
So what does it take to be even a somewhat decent parent? If you are an on-fire Christian in love with the Lord Yeshua, then you’ll probably come up to being a three-quarter way decent parent. If you are only a lukewarm Christian and only go to church on Easter and Christmas, (those dreaded CEO’s [Christmas-Easter-only] Christians, you’ll be lucky if you make it to one-third-way decent parent. However, if you’re fully living in the world….well….good luck.
So would this on-fire holiness preacher ever do the parenting thing again? I would as long as I remained an on-fire Christian, and totally in love with the King….that is, King Yeshua. Now, if only that had been the case the first time through. It probably would have been a lot easier. Not that children won’t probably still go through a time of rebellion….but that as parents…we have a source of comfort and wisdom that the world simply does not possess. So what do you say about the idea of doing the parenting trip again? Would you do it over again?
Fatherhood has been around for eons, especially since the Lord God Almighty is the greatest Father of all. God patterned the role of Father after Himself and He is the epitome. The greatest and most wonderful example of what a true Father should act like. So what are some of the examples that God the Father has left as a pattern that all men who want to be good Fathers should imitate? The first and greatest example is that God the Father is always faithful; second, He is always there for His children; thirdly, He truly knows how to love His children; fourth, He occasionally spoils His children and lavishes us with His gifts, both spiritual and physical, and fifth, He knows how to lovingly discipline us as well when we need His strong, guiding Hand. In the sixth place, He is our provider and keeps us fed, clothed and gives us physical shelter from the elements. Finally, the seventh example is this: He is our spiritual protector as well and has provided us with eternal life and places us in the midst of his hedge so that even though our enemy, the adversary walks about like a great roaring lion, he cannot touch us when the Lord God Almighty is our shield and our buckler.
This writer did not deliberately place these numbered examples in this order. In fact, this writer was simply writing and when I had placed the second example, I just kept writing. Afterwards, as I was reading what I wrote to check for clarity, I was adding the rest of the numbers in their order and could barely believe how it turned out. This, my friends was the Hand of God in action. Why? It came out too perfect, that is why. Totally awesome is the Lord God Almighty. All right men, those of you who are already fathers and those who someday would like to have his own children…read it and listen up.
- God is always Faithful
- God is always there
- God always loves
- God is the Great Giver
- God’s Grace disciplines us
- God meets our physical needs
- God is our Spiritual life-giver and protector
If this writer had tried to come up with this list from the flesh, I would have been sitting at my computer all day…reality really bytes. So Fathers living here upon earth…here is your list…keep it in front of you at all times and imitate…imitate…imitate!
- Fathers…remain faithful to your family
- Fathers…stay there and just be there
- Fathers…love your children
- Fathers…Give your self to your children
- Fathers…don’t be afraid to lovingly discipline your children
- Fathers…make sure you provide for your children
- Fathers…you can’t give your children eternal life….but you can lead them to the Lord Jesus Christ who can.
So when did people begin to actually set aside a special day to commemorate our Fathers? There is a possibility that it was first started after a mining accident in Monongah, WV in December 1907 and subsequently a memorial service was held in 1908. Another possibility is that it was felt that because Mother’s were being honored so should Fathers. The first time that it was celebrated in June was in 1910 when Sonora Smart Dodd wanted to honor her father who raised all six of his children by himself after his wife died. In that day, most men who became widowers quickly remarried or placed their children in the care of others. Finally, it became a national holiday in 1972 by President Nixon signing it into law. A little tidbit: In different languages we say: Fathers’ Day in English and Día del Padre in Spanish; יום האב in Hebrew and Vatertag in German.
So men….Fathers….Happy Father’s Day, Día del Padre, יום האב, and Vatertag!