How to keep your husband or wife as the love of your life
There are endless articles in books, magazines and internet stories of how to find love, how to ditch your date and to create your own therapy and express your hate. Please forgive the rhyme of the first line, but it is February and poets abound with lyrical lines and sonnets of love (author is laughing even as she writes these lines.) Okay. So the topic of this article is “how to keep your husband or wife as the love of your life” (more rhyming.) Biblically speaking…
Let’s look at 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.
Charity can be translated as LOVE, so yes…
LOVE suffers or puts up with a lot of things for a long time and sometimes this is what we have to do, because none of us are perfect.
LOVE is kind. Sometimes you might want to say what your really think, but if you truly love your spouse, sometimes it’s wiser to just not say anything.
LOVE doesn’t envy. Especially, when your spouse gets that promotion and you wonder when yours is going to come to pass.
LOVE doesn’t know what a BIG EGO is all about. So when you get that promotion, remember that your spouse is probably waiting for one too. So treat them to something they really want and draw them into the limelight with you.
LOVE doesn’t act like a jerk. No explanations are really needed here, we’ve all seen them.
LOVE doesn’t seek applause.
LOVE is not easily provoked, so husbands and wives should not allow themselves to get angry and blow up with every little thing that happens on a daily basis.
LOVE does not think evil things about their spouse. Hmmm…how can I get even with him/her.
LOVE does not rejoice in iniquity or sin, whether you or your spouse commits the infraction, repent as soon as possible if you have transgressed against the Lord your God.
LOVE rejoices in TRUTH. So what is truth? Truth is not a what but a WHO. Truth is the Lord Jesus Christ and truth is His WORD. So to be able to rejoice in TRUTH is to read God’s Word, and apply it to your life and to your marriage.
LOVE bears all things. When your spouse is not doing the above prescriptions, but this also does not mean that you have to be a door mat either.
LOVE believes all things. This does not mean that when your husband/wife comes in late at night with that ‘deer-in-the-headlight-look’ that you believe every story they tell. You reprove in love and get your spouse back on track.
LOVE hopes all things. You hope for the best in your marriage and you are willing to work at it for a life time, never giving up even if your spouse wants to give up on your love. Daily prayer together forges a union that is hard to break.
LOVE endures all things. So when things are not going the way that you think they should, you endure…even as the Lord Jesus Christ did as He forged out our salvation to form a relationship with us for an eternity.
This does not preclude that both husband and wife should rejoice in doing those small things for the love of their life:
1. Taking your spouse on a date night
2. Putting chocolate kisses on their pillow
3. Putting ‘I LOVE YOU’ notes in their lunchbox or briefcase
4. Calling them at lunch time just to hear their voice
5. Candle-light dinners for two
The list could go on and on, so come up with your own special delights to treat your spouse with love from your heart. This next is especially for the husbands…when your wife asks you the DREADED question….”Does this dress look good on me?”
Even if the answer is “NO!” Take your wife in your arms and look directly into her eyes and tell her,
“YOU look beautiful my love!”
Happy Valentine’s Day!